Easing Into Littlespace

Something that almost every Little will face at some point in their life is the feeling of being “locked out” of Littlespace. This can happen for many reasons – being hurt by a Caregiver, breaking up with a partner, major stress at work, a particularly nasty illness… whatever the reason, feeling like you can’t reach the headspace you love so much can be extremely painful for a Little.

When that “locked out” feeling happens, it can be tempting to throw yourself at one of two extremes: to try to force yourself deep into Littlespace or to leave Littlespace behind you completely forever. Neither of these are good options as the first may make the locked-out feeling worse, and the second plays in to a binge-and-purge cycle that many Littles know all too well.

The better choice is to try to ease yourself back into Littlespace.

What do I mean by that? I think the best way to explain is by example.

soap-bubble-439103_1920When I get stressed out (which happens for any number of reasons), I can find myself feeling locked-out of Littlespace. There’s just this weird feeling in the pit of my stomach when I even look at my pacifier or sippy cups. Shows I usually love to watch feel oddly empty or maybe even actually grate on my nerves. This is really upsetting for me! So what I do is put away those more “intense” aspects of Littlespace. I don’t try to use a sippy or my pacifier because that feels like I’m forcing myself. Instead, I’ll do a “less-Little” version of things I enjoy in Littlespace.

Some examples!

  • Coloring in an “adult” coloring book instead of a “kid” coloring book
  • Taking a bath without bubbles or bath toys (but perhaps with a bath bomb)
  • Watching “The Great British Baking Show” instead of “Octonauts” (or similar)
  • Redressing my dolls instead of playing with them
  • Eat a Littlespace meal (like pb&j or mac ‘n cheese) on adult plates

By easing myself back into Littlespace with these kinds of “modified” activities, I can help myself relax a bit more and transition past the stressful scenario keeping me from fully enjoying my Littlespace. Sometimes it might take a few days of these kinds of modifications, but I find it really does help with that feeling of being “locked out of Littlespace.”